I have a confession to make. I’m a happy guy. I must admit I feel a bit strange in expressing…
Emotional boundaries help us define our personal space that we can defend safely and feel a sense of individuation. Boundaries help to protect us from becoming too involved in the external affairs of others and empower us to say “no” to things we don’t want so we can say “yes” to the things we really want.
I find this notion is applicable to what the world has witnessed recently with the deaths of George Floyd, Rayshard Brooks, Breonna Taylor, Ahmaud Arbery, and many others at the hands of police brutality and white supremacy. The global uprising that has followed these deaths is in direct response to the tyranny of the majority—a tyranny that has systematically oppressed black people, designed by a majority that has long profited from that system.
As a trauma therapist, I’m well aware of the impact of grief on the lives of my clients. I’ve helped many cope with loss of loved ones, and over the years I’ve noticed an interesting pattern. Grief can happen not just with the death of someone we love, but also the death of something we love.